Why Understanding The Problem Is Key To Solving It
What Is Your What
What if the real problem is not understanding the problem in the first place. What if the source of trouble is that we are coming up with solutions that don’t fit the reality of the situation.
Thoughts I wondered to myself as I began to grapple with family dysfunction and began to see why years of misplaced advice didn’t work on me.
People are good at quickly deciding what the probelms are. They can sum us up in a few sentences and figure out what needs to happen to fix us. We are so used to this practice we rarely question it, but by the time we do the words they have spoken have done their damage.
I got to thinking how someone looked at me once and said because I didn’t attend the event I must have been prideful. My problems back then were depression, hopelessness, and that persons emotional abuse. They never took the time to get to know me and about my problems and their advice on how to fix things only increased my despair.
By ourselves we can create the most fantastic stories about why everything happens. It’s the result of overthinking. Left alone and without facts to verify anything we can create solutions to figments of our imagination.
