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The Rule Makers, Judges, & The Opinionated In Your Life Control It
As parents we spend eighteen years teaching our kids the rules. It’s what we know to do to try to raise responsible adults. When the kids enter school they learn a new set of rules. These rules teach them how to pass classes, not get into trouble, and get a degree. If we send the kids off to Sunday School class or church camp they learn a life encompassing set. Every family gathering during childhood is a setting for the judges. It’s where the opinions fly and innocent ears hear them. It teaches them how things are done and draws a line for them they shouldn’t cross.
Everywhere the kids go there are judges. Parents judge. In our quest to ensure the kids are safe and well we judge their motives, friends, decisions, and life goals. It’s what we do. We do it in the name of good parenting. If you live with us you hear our opinions. The kids don’t know what they should and shouldn’t listen to. They don’t realize we are growing up alongside of them and that our opinions are only as developed as we are. They hear them over and over for years and it teaches them a lot about what the rules for living are. It establishes a set of do’s and don’ts. If they want to get a good opinion of us they learn what they have to do to get it.
Everyone in my life thinks that if I start talking about breaking the rules I am talking…
