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The Power of Curiosity to Change Your Life
A lack of curiosity can say a lot about how much we value one another and serve as a measuring stick for the amount of narcissism one brings into a relationship. I get pretty upset when my mom never asks about my hobbies, habits, job, about the house, our new life, goals, dreams, hopes, or about anything really. Of course she loves me, she says so after her slew of demands, but she never asks. What does a complete lack of curiosity indicate?
Right at the moment I want to walk away and leave her and everyone else in the dirt I get a glimpse of myself repeating dysfunctional patterns. Yes, habits are hard to break. That’s my excuse anyway. It was when the kids left home that I first noticed it. I was in the habit of coming home after work and running straight into the kitchen to start dinner. Afterwards was always laundry, picking up the house, taking care of the dog, etc. Once the nest emptied I had more time and our silence made things quite clear. I wasn’t curious about my husband and I rarely asked questions about his day, his work, his hopes, his dreams, his routine, habits, hobbies, and life. What does that lack of curiosity say about me and our relationship?
Curiosity
An article in the Current Opinion in Behavioral Sciences states that most people think of curiosity as a desire to know which can be a powerful…
