The Journey Into The Narcissistic Mother-Daughter Relationship

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This isn’t a call for daughters to hate narcissistic mothers, but to look at the reality of what they went through and figure out how to mitigate the impact. This is a call to accept the mother that life dealt you, deal with that reality, learn how to heal from it, separate from her, and live an authentic life. If we are busy doing all that we won’t have time for more unproductive emotions like anger and hatred. Children should have parents who love them unconditionally, attend to their emotional needs, and applaud the development of their authentic self. When that doesn’t happen, this is about what we can do.

In Dr. Karyl McBride’s book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? she breaks down the topic into three parts. We need to recognize the problem, see the impact it had on our lives, and end the legacy by becoming our authentic selves. Depending on where we are in the healing process will determine how difficult it is to look at mother.

This type of mother sees her daughter, more than a son, as a reflection and extension of herself rather than as a separate person. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance, believe they are special and unique, require excessive admiration, and a sense of entitlement.

Mother may be the nicest lady at Sunday School, but at home lacks empathy and is…