Manage feelings, Make decisions & Deal with “now” & You will succeed
Art, creativity, achieving goals, and showing up.
If we allow our feelings to inspire us to do something great, decide to do that thing on a consistent basis, and are willing to wait for results there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. The concepts of feelings, decisions, and now are key to accomplishing goals, creating art, and trying new ideas. If we manage these concepts properly we will find ourselves doing some pretty amazing things. If we get them out of balance we will be stuck in idea mode forever.
Feelings=an emotional state or reaction; a belief, especially a vague or irrational one.
In the heat of anger is great intensity. We are motivated to act without much thought. We pick up and throw, stomp, and pursue. Sadness and grief cause inaction. We become glued and somber. Our action is inaction. A reaction to our emotion. When stimulated we can become unhinged. In the midst of excitement we may experience a rush of energy and become almost manic. On the verge of an orgasm we will react vigorously to ensure that feelings full capacity. When delighted we will react with briskness and increased energy levels. When confused we will react irrationally and speak vaguely about life. Emotions drive behavior. They are the impetus for our lives and can be the cause of our downfall.
I get excited about my job promotion, but when that excitement fades and I get used to the new income I realize it really just meant more responsibility and work. I get an idea for a business and in my excitement I outline a business plan. When the first obstacle surfaces my excitement turns to frustration and I begin to question my great idea. I am moved by nature and decide to write about that awesome tree down by the lake and my experience camping on that mountain for a month. Once I am back to work and that experience begins to fade so does my desire to journal about my life. I have sex with a stranger and the excitement of being with him lingers. We become friends with benefits. The feeling of his youthful body and strong physique stick with me and we date for a year. The strength of our feelings grow and so does our enjoyment of our physical love. He feels good. One year after our wedding we are knee deep into buying our first home, have our first child, a car payment, and those strong feelings start to disappear.
Decision=a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.
If we want things to continue after feelings fade we have to make a decision. We have to come to the conclusion that we will act despite our feelings or lack of them. What keeps me at my job? A decision. What keeps me married? A decision. What caused me to write today despite my feelings of doubt, confusion, and being tired? A decision. An amazing idea will never survive the feeling stage if it does not become a decision.
Some have told stories of artists who had dreams where they composed a perfect poem, wrote a perfect composition, or created the perfect idea. Those reports are subject to the memory of the story teller and could be made up altogether. Even if they are true the artist had to wake up and make a decision. They had to act to bring their art to life. There is no mystery and rarely any exciting feelings about sitting down and doing the work required for success. Deciding is a refining process that separates the professionals from the amateurs. It is there that success is decided. Great ideas are born and die with the indecisive person. Success requires showing up again and again and again until the desired results are achieved. Feelings do not last long enough to sustain our motivation to succeed. It requires a decision.
If we study corporate giants we see a pattern. Success requires showing up every day and working consistently on goals. Why does our employer succeed? Because we come to work every day and work. At some moment in time our employer had an idea and that idea grew and became the company or institution we are at. That company is successful because people decide to work there and decide to show up every day and do some pretty monotonous and boring tasks. Employees decide to show up despite how they feel and if we want success we have to decide to show up every day too.
Lulled in the swelling of now,
buoyed by the welling of now,
washed in the wavings of now,
swirling in the surge of now
Now=at the present time or moment.
According to an article on Salesforce.com “the concept of waiting is dead. We get frustrated when our online orders take longer than a few days, let alone weeks; we abandon TV shows that take longer than a few minutes to buffer; and we curse web pages that don’t instantly load.” We are a society of immediacy. We want it now and companies are tailoring their services to satisfy our demand for immediate service. We can run our lives via a hand-held device, connect with people around the world in an instant, and have access to information about any topic any time we want it. Everything is about now, the present time and present moment.
Try telling your viral loving self that you have to wait to achieve success. Try gulping down the ecstasy of having your Facebook post going viral and then sitting down to write a blog post that may never get read. Try forgetting all those likes you got on Instagram today and going into your craft closet and painting where no can see or appreciate your work. Try concentrating on practicing your craft when you are thinking about how many retweets you got today, how many shares that one post got, or how many new comments there are on your account. Try digging into something that takes years to succeed in and burying your desire to have the most follows.
Now can be our biggest enemy. Our feelings can provide us with an amazing idea. We can decide to act on that idea and show up every day and do the work, but now clamors. Knocking at the door. It says feed me. I need your attention. You can’t wait. You have to succeed now. All that matters is what happens today and if it doesn’t happen today it’s not going to happen. Do you see the shiny lights on your phone? They are whispering to you. They need your attention. Life is happening really fast and you are missing it. You are missing your opportunity to be a part of now.
Now is the hardest to tame. If our work doesn’t produce immediate results we quit. We must satisfy now, but great ideas, great artists, and the most successful people look over now and look ahead to tomorrow. They look ahead until next year and a few years down the road. They understand there is a progression to success and it takes some time. Now doesn’t understand the beauty of the journey. The depth that can be developed as we wait.
Feelings, decisions, and now.
There is no hope of shutting off our feelings. We can bury and ignore them, but they are here to stay. Listen to them and let them open your mind to new possibilities. Let them feed your ideas. Take your great ideas and make some great decisions. Decide to show up every day and work to accomplish your goals. Wake up tomorrow and decide all over again and again until you have achieved success. Don’t listen to now. It’s lying to you. It doesn’t value the creative journey and the depth that you can realize by waiting for results. What you are doing is important and it will be worth the wait.
Originally published at aprolificanthology.com on January 24, 2019.