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I Am A Strong and Free Woman, Until The Kids Come Back Home
Being Mom & Not Losing Yourself
So you have taken all these strides to find yourself. The kids started leaving home. Maybe part way or all the way. The shift forced you to start thinking about yourself more. At first this can be painful, but overtime we come to love thinking about ourselves. Well we didn’t know that until someone comes back to live with us for a while. It is then all those old roles start flooding back. Mom is home so stuff is getting taken care of. Before we know it we are running around taking care of everything like we used to. Which means we are so busy we don’t have time to do anything for ourselves. There is the dog, the house, dinner, laundry, cleaning, and on and on. It feels like the good old days, but it’s not. We have moved on.
I loved and still love being a mother, but I also love being me. In fact the more I get to be just me the more I like it. I truly enjoy being a person all on my own and as life shifts I feel myself slipping back into old roles. My anger stirs. I don’t want to lose what I have fought so hard to get back. Time for myself and self-care. Developing my character and skills. Resting. Enjoying the outdoors. Having the freedom to go where I want when I want. Being able to sit on the couch without expectations from others. Being more than a mom. Being a…
