How Objectivity Can Help Us Overcome The Feelings of I Can’t
Something induces the feeling of I can’t and if you’ve experienced it you understand the impact it has on your ability to accomplish the simplest things. You might have been able to multi-task before, but now doing things like waking up, taking a shower, and going to work are monumental.
I find myself at work, again. I momentarily sit in my car in shock I got this far, but I don’t dare linger. If I do I will never make it into the building. As I walk down the sidewalk I tell myself to step over and over until I make it to the front door.
The I can’t feeling could be the result of stress, trauma, grief, sadness, depression, or anxiety and while the cause might differ, the impact is the same.
Rose George explains how menopause caused it for her stating, “I can’t explain the granite of the can’t, the way it feels impossible to beat.” I’ve been trying to beat it for eight years and like George this feeling of can’t feels like a derangement. It’s not being able to make a decision, do simple things, and having our minds filled with heavy thoughts.
One night after work I stick some food in the microwave and notice the dryer needs emptied and start to grapple with whether I can handle that big of a task. I decide to tackle it and get most of the small load folded by the…
